Monday, September 19, 2016

Going on 5 months of marriage.... and it's been interesting



 So, it's been 5 months since the wedding, and I enjoy every day with my husband.  His quirks, my quirks, our small discussions about things, and of course the never ending load of dishes. LOL.  All in good time. My sister-in-law (my husband's twin's wife) told me last night that their first year was the hardest, and I'm getting the picture as to why.  It's a time to define who you are as a couple- what you are and how you integrate that into your marriage and your relationships with the families and what you will and won't do in order to please someone else. 
Marriages are never "Happily Ever After" but rather a start of a new journey- one to bond with a partner, build dreams and goals together.  And maneuvering through the other relationships in the family.  It's tough, but there's no where in the Bible that states marriage was easy, etc.  If you love and respect each other, it will go a hole lot smoother.

Monday, April 4, 2016

9 days to go til the wedding, and thoughts on the house.....


So, we have 9 days til the wedding, and we're continuing to receive gifts and putting our house together.  My mom is always an interesting twist on stuff.  She said "I thought you were trying to downsize." LOL....

I, of course, have been talking about getting rid of "stuff" and downsizing to either do "Tiny house" living or something similar.  But I'm finding ways that I can have a smaller house (in cost) and still entertain on the inside.  So downsizing but in other ways.

I have a passion for food and sharing that food with people, but I also have an old book addiction.  Seriously.  Some people collect cats or rescue pets, I rescue old books.  What do I plan to do with them?  Donate them to my college, when I'm ready.  I've been building an Irish History collection of rare and out of print books, and then recently have been picking up older books in other areas including literature, British History, and I recently acquired a 1910 encyclopedia collection.  Why?  Because old books have always fascinated me, and according to studies of children's literacy, a child is more likely to have good reading skills if there are more than 50 books in the house.  To inspire, not to harm my child's (future child if possible) imagination. :)

My grandmother either bought us or gave us an encyclopedia collection when I was super little.  I remember drawing flags from the images in the book, and posting them all over the walls in my room; reading about the renaissance, Egyptology, anatomy, state histories, and all sorts of stuff.  I don't think I would have discovered so much had it been limited to the internet.  Having internet is a great thing, but when you have small people, you tend to want to have a better filter on things and having it limited to your library is pretty much the easier course of doing so.  I know had the internet been available when I was small, my mom probably would have not let us use it except for projects for homeschool.  My wanderings through my encyclopedias were totally recreational, and I loved every minute.

The other part, is with the house, I'm going through and deciphering what's still in fab shape that I can send along and find another home for items.  We had kept his pots and pans, not anticipating that we would be replacing our pots and pans so quickly.  Plus new crockpots and plates and such, it certainly warrants a look at older platters that are still in great shape to share with friends and family as they build their entertaining dishes. 

We're still not sure what to do with housing in the future and such, but hey, I continue to give away what is not used to bless someone else's pantry of fun. :)  And of course, build an awesome collection to donate to future students.


Friday, March 18, 2016

THE DRESS FIT!!!!!

I finally got around to trying on my dress.  For the sheer reason the groom reads my blog, I am not posting that picture.


But we had a good moment of trying on the dress.  It was the women of my household: My mom, my sister-in-law (my brother's wife) and my aunt who is currently undergoing cancer treatments and living with my mom.


The dress was in this really tiny bag, shipped from China, and it unraveled so beautifully.  Just the palest of pinks, and tulle everywhere.  The applique shined so beautifully. 


My sister-in-law and my mom helped me into my dress and let me look in the mirror, and my aunt climbed the stairs, which she seldom does, to come see me in my dress.  It was a great moment to enjoy my dress and the women surrounding me.


I only have a few things that need to be adjusted, but if I didn't get them fixed it wouldn't be the end of the world.


THE DRESS FITS!!!!

Whoooo Hoooo!!!!!

It's almost here.....

As the wedding gets closer, I am putting together my house and getting things done.  Not much to do now that I've got everything pretty much ordered, appointments completed, my dress fits, etc.


I've been enjoying getting in touch with people I haven't talked to in years, and enjoying that some of them are close enough to get back in touch with.  I found out one of all-time favorite history professors actually lives in the zip code I work in.  I'm thinking a dinner is warranted soon.  He was actually one that fed my weird history interests, and allowed me to do a paper in Argentinian history called "The Wild Women of Argentina" my thesis statement was based on a quote, by a Ms. Ulrich which said "Well-behaved women seldom make history."  He and another professor encouraged me to continue with getting a Masters in History, but that wasn't in the cards.  But because of those two I am working on a donation of rare and out of print Irish History books and other hardbacks to be donated when I'm ready to my university. 


Hope to see him soon.


We'll see.


Only thing I have left that is wedding related to order is my fiancé's tux, and then get the house ready for wedding photography since we're doing our dressing pictures at the house (separate rooms, I pay attention to superstition).


Hugs and love to you all
~Melissa

Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Is it wrong I'm not remotely interested in trying on my wedding dress just now?


My wedding dress arrived yesterday. 
My move is on Saturday (the roommate kept the townhouse, my fiancé and I are moving two blocks over to a fully renovated one floor apartment, bonus on both ends for me).
And it's allergy season.

Is it wrong I don't want to drive all the way out to my mom's to go and try on my dress and do a girly thing right now? 

I know the dress arrived yesterday at my mom's house, and if it had arrived at my house, I probably would have wanted to open it and look and try it on.  However, I am moving on Saturday, I have massive allergy issues right now, I need to do laundry, etc. My schedule is full without a trek out to my mom's to try on a dress I'm scared might not fit.  Though custom sized, I still am trepidatious about the dress not fitting properly.  I'm all sorts of odd shapes, and I gain weight wayyyy too easily.  It doesn't take much to put me into the next size of pants. 

I asked a girlfriend of mine at work if it was wrong that I had no remote interest in going to try on my dress at present, and she was like "You need to march out there, with a bottle of wine, and put your dress on! It's not Prom for heaven's sakes, this is your wedding dress!"

So, I've already gotten the push to go and do the visit with the dress, I just am so overloaded right now that trying to do anything fun is going to ruin the moment I want to try the dress on, in that moment.  I think that's why I told my blessed mom that I would address that next week. 

Poor Mom, I'm sure she's dying to see what the dress looks like, see how it fits, etc. 

Wednesday, February 17, 2016

The family version of 3 strikes and you're out: Doesn't exist apparently

I have to keep this vague in order to not name the guilty.  Some things that just go down are unacceptable and frustration comes out and there's little else you can do but blog.


I'm used to my hard and fast rule of three strikes and you're out.  My mother advises me that in family terms it doesn't exist. 


No matter how many times you get cancelled on, snubbed, discarded, "educated," and suffer the stupidity of family, you cannot completely ban them from your life.


Damn.


I was kinda hoping to go back to my drama-free life that was up to my standards.  According to my mom, it doesn't work that way.


Damn.


I enjoyed a life prior to my wedding that was nearly drama-free, now I'm subject to People of Wal-Mart" tactics to start family fights and I'm trying my damnedest not to encourage anything.


I want to give back gifts that come with strings, I want to stop being "educated" on how to properly behave to a woman I wouldn't want my children subject to, etc.


I don't need to be educated how to handle my life, I can already do that.  If you have to have your damn finger in every pie, then go find another damn pie.  I'm not having you dip into my life without my consent.


Yes, today is foul language in the blog, sorry.  I'm seriously frustrated.

Thursday, February 11, 2016

1500 pageviews: Thank you, I am honored

Thank you to all that continue to read on.
I can tell you these last few months have been somewhat hectic.
I swear they need a Looney bin for brides after the wedding.  So many things going in so many directions, so many things to be planned, and so many things to manage.  I get the Bridezilla factor now.  If I didn't have so much background in this stuff, I would probably lose it too, and nearly have.

I am thankful that my event planning, menu planning and cake planning were all in one.  Made my appointment schedule so much easier, and everyone that is involved in the vendor aspects of the wedding are super excited as they get to use their talents for such a special event, and in ways that they had wanted to maneuver their talents.  My cake decorator is actually stringing sugar pearls for my cake (he's always wanted to do that), the chef for the restaurant is building my menu from scratch not from the menu (with his signature flair), and the photographer has always wanted to shoot at that venue.

I can honestly say everyone involved is just as excited as I am, and the ways that things have been brought together have just been magical (artistic consciousness??), but it's all coming together as I want and how I hope.  Excited beyond words.

Hugs and love my friends and those who follow me.

I'll post more dating stuff as it comes up from input I get, but it sounds like the reverse of this blog just got turned into a movie. LOL