To be at peace with yourself before you date.... it makes a difference....

This word is not the hippy connotation.  It is in fact the word that was preached throughout the Bible.  Let the Spirit bring you peace.  But also within that context, to know yourself is also to find peace.

If you can live with yourself, you can find peace.  If you are constantly in turmoil over who you are, what you do, who you are, what you identify, then you need to seek what you do want to be.  Find peace in your life with your job, your life, your hobbies, your friends, your energy, etc. 

I don't know about you, but I would rather have someone who is comfortable with who they are rather than someone who wants to get married to find their identity in who they can become.  Though usually it's typical that men and women gain social standing upon saying "I do."  You have to know who you are when you walk down that aisle rather than merely throwing yourself into a relationship merely to satisfy society.

I got to a point, before I met my fiancé, that I was comfortable if I never met "The One."  I could be the exciting spinster.  And it was a huge transition to even think of myself as "engaged."  Panic attack registered.  I just got to a point where I started planning my life as though it was just going to be me in this world, and that I was going to lead my life. 

And that's when it hit.  I met "him."

I can't say the results are the same for everyone, because everyone's love story is different.  But if you are still single, just get comfortable with yourself and brace yourself for the long haul, and enjoy life.  It'll happen when it's supposed to happen, but don't sacrifice your current social life for the lack of a date.  Go out and do something.