Etiquette and proprieties: Just a few simple things that should be observed

I put this in bold, to note it's great importance on society, social settings, entry into society and how to maneuver life.  I cannot emphasize it's importance enough, as it is becoming a defining note right now in my life and how I adjust to things.

Lets talk about proprieties for a second: Propriety is defined as "Socially and Morally acceptable behavior, correct or appropriate behavior."  Also what came up in the search is "Dignity."  Have a little dignity for yourself and respect for others.

Propriety was also known "the look of the thing."  How does it look that a married or attached woman is talking, interacting, conducting herself to a male that is not her partner?  I grew up in a church that if the couple was not married, or it was a random man and woman, that if that wasn't your wife essentially- you did not get into a car, an elevator, be seen in public, etc. with that person.  You could get the label of "philanderer" and get reported. (I grew up in a large church, lots of eyes).  It also refers to a young lady talking to a single man, when that woman is known to have an engagement ring.  Whether it's a family relation or not, she should actually go to a trusted woman in her life.  It's considered inappropriate to be going to a man and telling him her business, it may look like she's fishing.  (such an episode recently occurred, and I'm surprised at who she reached out to, and I'm surprised as to why.  Now I'm just trying to figure out the next step.).

Etiquette: Seriously, if you want to be considered "well mannered," check yourself against an etiquette book.  I highly recommend it.  It goes beyond court etiquette, it's a method of attempting to make everyone in the room comfortable.  Ill mannered people tend to make situations interesting to address later, and can cause some major miscommunications.

Recently, someone I barely know has decided that she needs "to spend more time in Charlotte" and thus assumed an invitation to my residence and soon to be, my marital residence.  I don't care who you are, you wait for an invitation.  If one doesn't come, don't push it.  There is a reason there is no invitation coming forward.  If you wish to be invited, conduct yourself properly in all fashions including how you talk to my fiancé, and politely inquire if you can spend time with me at my home rather than assume you are welcome there anytime.  I am always careful about whom I let into my house and home, my kitchen and my life.  I've had enough of people walking into my life assuming things and then trying to get things out of me in response to their assumptions.  

If I find that I wish to extend an invitation, I will do so.  I did to my fiancé's twin brother and his wife, but didn't find a need to extend anything any further than that.

My closest friends and family are the only ones that have been admitted to my home, primarily because I've only been out on my own for approximately 18 months, the apartments are small, and it's not generally a place that I can host people other than a small wine and dine party.

Maneuvering family and friends are always an interesting task, but I expect a certain level of respect and boundaries.  I don't want to be gossiped about, and I expect the same.  I wouldn't drop in on you, so please don't drop in on me.  I wouldn't dish stories about my child (I don't have kids, but I wouldn't do it regardless), please don't do the same.  If I text, it's because my hearing on the phone isn't all that great, and I'm trying to make a point before the situation gets blown up and I have a heart attack.  If I make time for you, and you agree to the time, I expect fair notice for cancelling or rescheduling.  If you cancel because you accepted something you could have easily turned down, I will be slightly offended and will reconsider making any further arrangements with you.  I expect fair notice if I'm driving all the way to see you, whether it is across town, or an hour or more away, if the plans get cancelled.  Do not call me multiple times in a day insisting on something.  I will get around to it on my priority list.

If it interferes with my sanity, my family or my work, it will either be completely cut off or will receive rules the next time I encounter it.  Whether its a bear or anything else.