Celebrate the little things in life

Being single doesn't have to be fruitless with lack of celebrations: Make up new ones!

So what if everyone around you is having kids, birthdays, Christmas, and family time!  You are single, you go and do anything you want!!!

Just because you don't have the same mile markers as everyone else, celebrate the little things in life for you!  Pay raise, your 30th birthday, Taco Night, Friends coming to visit, a Friend's last wish, a Tuesday night!  You don't have to wait for the traditional holidays to come around-being you and being single- you already broke the traditional mold of not joining the crowd, so break the celebration rules too.

After having done singles events for my church for about 18 months, I got in the habit of finding things to do being single.  My friends and I did Valentine's Day together, girls only, and we would go out to dinner.  We didn't care that we were single, we celebrated it.

Other things I have gotten in the habit of celebrating as a single:  Celebrating life- when someone is sick- you celebrate when they get out of the hospital, or honor things you know they love.  I had a friend in the ICU over Thanksgiving and she missed her favorite holiday- Black Friday.  I made sure to bring in the Black Friday ads for her, in honor of her tradition. 

I also have a friend of a friend who not only is just recovering from months in the hospital, but also recovering from a very devastating breakup.  I told her that when she was comfortable to go out again, she and me and our mutual friend would have a Mexican Food night out in her honor, and in honor of losing a man who was not worth her time.

Celebrate you milestones:  When you get a promotion at work, when you get a pay raise, when you get your Christmas bonus, when you have a great day at work.  Celebrate your own birthday with your friends.  It doesn't always have to be with your blood family, but it can also be with the people who love and support you every day. 

Celebrate a new car, a move, the return from a trip.  Go on vacation for the holidays if holidays depress you.  I know of plenty of people who either go on a cruise or go somewhere wild so that they can celebrate in a fashion they want to enjoy. 

There should be no reason that you should be miserable and covered in other people's kids toys or drool and be constantly asked about when you are finally getting married, having a baby, etc. 

You don't have to "feel single" if you don't want to.

Celebrate in your own way, and forget tradition.  Enjoy your life and forget the rest.


*and a toast to a friend who is doing just that.  He is going on a cruise with his family this coming Christmas, and he's not going to listen to their requests, but rather living it up while he is on vacation. Cheers, my friend!