Yes, photos are a part of the process. If you don't post any, you will get less inquiries, if any. Photos display your facial characteristics, your interests, your hobbies, your car, your pets, children, family and friends. People like to see that you have a life or you can do something. After all, isn't part of building a relationship being attracted to someone? Give them the option of seeing if you might be a face they are interested in.
If you prefer not to post pictures, you might as well stay off the internet dating process. It's not for you. I once asked a "gentleman" for pictures to be posted to his profile. He declined saying that he didn't take photos of himself and that it was a vanity thing. I readily replied that by not allowing me to see photos of himself gave me the impression that he thought he had the right to deprive women of viewing whom they were talking to, and thus making it a one-sided privilege for himself. He laughed, and I never returned another message.
If people refuse to post their pictures, they do not need a response. For safety reasons, you should know who you have been conversing with online. If you go out on a date with them, you should be able to describe who you are meeting to either a hostess or to the police, if the date turns bad. Though we never want things to turn out sour, being prepared helps lessen the probability.
Photos should display who you are and your world. One of the most common misconceptions about girls in general is that we care about abs. I know plenty of women who do not obsess about a guy's abs. Photos should not render any body part that isn't visible by regular clothing. Personally, I prefer a keg to a six-pack or a V-shape. Always save that for later.
The other misconception is the "junk." If we have been nice enough to give you our cell phone number, please don't send us pictures of your junk. Women, in general, know what it looks like, and it's another mystery to be explored behind closed doors. And word to the wise, thanks to smartphones, your junk can now end up all over the internet. Don't do it, man!!!
For those who want a good girl, I highly recommend posting wholesome pictures. Post pictures of your trips, of your friends, of your pets. The last thing a lady wants to see is you snuggled up with another girl, cheerleaders, or the bedroom photos. Being drunk or high are also major deterrents.
Vehicles and personal possessions: Unless you intend to try and capture a gold-digger, don't do it. If a girl is dating you because of your car, your truck, your bike or your house, that is a girl that wants you for the stuff, not the snuggle. You can mention that you have things, but you needed post highly expensive rides or habits. It will either make you look like a boaster, snobby or an idiot for buying something so basic in the luxury world.
I had a first meeting with a guy, and he showed me pictures of a bike that he bought, a Harley Davidson. Now, I know a little about Harleys. I know what the popular ones look like and I know what is generally not purchased by the general motorcycle owner. I know that the one he bought, made him look like a high spending idiot. And no, he did not get a second date... there was more to it than just the bike, but that was the start of his demise.
And those oh-so-common wedding photos. I have heard more people groan about those wedding photos. The guys always look great, don't they? Well, if they weren't taken in the last year, don't post them. Ladies, don't post your personal wedding pictures. I heard someone did that.
The photo rule of thumb should be that they present who you are, things you love and things you don't mind being all over the internet. Make sure that they are somewhat new and fresh to what you've done lately, and don't snap photos of framed photos in glass, we know the difference. If you haven't done anything this year interesting enough to photograph, time to get outdoors.
And always put your best picture as your main picture.
If you prefer not to post pictures, you might as well stay off the internet dating process. It's not for you. I once asked a "gentleman" for pictures to be posted to his profile. He declined saying that he didn't take photos of himself and that it was a vanity thing. I readily replied that by not allowing me to see photos of himself gave me the impression that he thought he had the right to deprive women of viewing whom they were talking to, and thus making it a one-sided privilege for himself. He laughed, and I never returned another message.
If people refuse to post their pictures, they do not need a response. For safety reasons, you should know who you have been conversing with online. If you go out on a date with them, you should be able to describe who you are meeting to either a hostess or to the police, if the date turns bad. Though we never want things to turn out sour, being prepared helps lessen the probability.
Photos should display who you are and your world. One of the most common misconceptions about girls in general is that we care about abs. I know plenty of women who do not obsess about a guy's abs. Photos should not render any body part that isn't visible by regular clothing. Personally, I prefer a keg to a six-pack or a V-shape. Always save that for later.
The other misconception is the "junk." If we have been nice enough to give you our cell phone number, please don't send us pictures of your junk. Women, in general, know what it looks like, and it's another mystery to be explored behind closed doors. And word to the wise, thanks to smartphones, your junk can now end up all over the internet. Don't do it, man!!!
For those who want a good girl, I highly recommend posting wholesome pictures. Post pictures of your trips, of your friends, of your pets. The last thing a lady wants to see is you snuggled up with another girl, cheerleaders, or the bedroom photos. Being drunk or high are also major deterrents.
Vehicles and personal possessions: Unless you intend to try and capture a gold-digger, don't do it. If a girl is dating you because of your car, your truck, your bike or your house, that is a girl that wants you for the stuff, not the snuggle. You can mention that you have things, but you needed post highly expensive rides or habits. It will either make you look like a boaster, snobby or an idiot for buying something so basic in the luxury world.
I had a first meeting with a guy, and he showed me pictures of a bike that he bought, a Harley Davidson. Now, I know a little about Harleys. I know what the popular ones look like and I know what is generally not purchased by the general motorcycle owner. I know that the one he bought, made him look like a high spending idiot. And no, he did not get a second date... there was more to it than just the bike, but that was the start of his demise.
And those oh-so-common wedding photos. I have heard more people groan about those wedding photos. The guys always look great, don't they? Well, if they weren't taken in the last year, don't post them. Ladies, don't post your personal wedding pictures. I heard someone did that.
The photo rule of thumb should be that they present who you are, things you love and things you don't mind being all over the internet. Make sure that they are somewhat new and fresh to what you've done lately, and don't snap photos of framed photos in glass, we know the difference. If you haven't done anything this year interesting enough to photograph, time to get outdoors.
And always put your best picture as your main picture.
*I had to post the Martha Stewart photos, it's too funny to think of her actually dating. Her last husband left her, citing "neglect" as his reasoning. She also forgot to list felon on her characteristics.
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