Introductions: Cat Calls, yelling across the street and proper introductions

An episode this morning on my morning walk inspired this piece of literary magic.  Just slightly peeved that this occurred and what I really wanted to say is not suitable for anyone's ears.

I was out for my morning walk this morning, when not even two blocks from my house, a bus pulls up to it's regular stop and a passenger comes out.  The bus stop is across the street, and a return trip, not a trip into the city.  I noticed him eyeing me, but not in an obvious way, like directly looking in his direction.  Due to the neighborhood I live in, I don't engage people I am unsure of. 

The guy watches me walking, and then just as I am about to get him out of my eyesight, he starts hollering "Hello" at me.  FROM.  ACROSS.  THE.  STREET.  This, makes me super peeved.  I cannot stand people who yell in public, unless they are attempting to contact someone due to an emergency or someone they know.  If you don't know someone, you don't holler at them.  He calls out several times, which I just act like I'm deaf and keep walking.  I'm not going to stand for being approached in such a fashion.

As the Lady Chablis would say "Where are you from? Where's your manners?"

He called out until he realized I was not going to respond.  I am fuming at this point.  I just kept walking and didn't say anything.

So, the point of all this is: How do you really talk to a woman?

No woman, or at least a decent woman, wants to be hollered at, catcalled, stalked in a parking lot, or approached by a dirty man.  I have had my fair share of all of this.  And unfortunately, I have assets that cause this too.  I may not be skinny, but I have curves in all the right places for guys who like snuggly girls.

I am appalled that men in America, the majority of single men in America that is, have lost the art of conversation and introduction.  Where they learned their new techniques, I have no idea.

As a lady, I would prefer to be approached properly, have a guy say "Hi, I think you're really pretty, do you think we could have a drink sometime?"  rather than "Hey baby, nice threads, nice top, shoooo-weeeee." 

What happened to being polite, genteel, respectful, etc.?

Let's just say that men who cannot approach me in a proper way have no business being acknowledged, much less even corrected.  I can tell from the get go what the intention is, and it's not having a relationship with me, but rather what I can bring to the table.

A respectable woman, with a little bit of weight, is usually a target for scrubs.  Because we don't get as many dates as the skinny girls, and we do sometimes get lonely, scrubs (men without money, car, job, etc, with possibly child support payments and jail time on their record) have decided that we are a great target because they can use us for what we have including but not limited to our time, money, and credit score.  I may not make a lot, but I have a respectable income, with perks.  This has made me a target for a lot of scrubs, from all walks of life. 

I had a guy contact me because he read my profile, and he said "I'm living with a friend because I was homeless for a while, I'm trying to get on my feet, but I have child support payments and a really bad divorce behind me."  Yeah, not my type on any level.  I told him I didn't think that this would work.  His reply was "Well, at least I tried."  Yeah, to get what he could out of me.

For the ladies- don't bite when you are approached inappropriately.  Don't acknowledge bad behavior, it only endorses it.  Just ignore them like you are deaf and blind and simply walk on.  Don't allow them to get away with bad behavior.

I would rather be approached at the grocery store with a quick "Hi, I think you are really pretty, but I know you are busy with your shopping.  Do you think I could get your number to ask you out?"  or a "Hi, my name is ___________, can I buy you a drink sometime?"

Be a gentleman hunter.  You don't have to be suave, just polite, and you will get a completely different response.  Good manners go a long way to success with a woman.  I cannot stress that enough.