Since journey was taken, I decided that I would take "yellow brick road"...

We always hope that dating is the "yellow brick road" of the "Wizard of Oz."  Maybe if we take enough steps in life, we'll end up happy with a mate.  Some of us think "I've been good, I've done all the steps needed.  Why don't I have the mate I desire?" or "Why has God made me single this long?"

I used to ask myself the same thing.  I don't think it has to do with how spiritual you are, how charitable you are, how good you are, or how much you have your *stuff* together.  I sat for 6 years waiting for God to bring me my mate.  Then I realized one day that it was actually my responsibility to get out there.

The questions posed above:  I don't think those are the right questions.  It isn't even the right mind set.  For those of us who are Christians, God never promised us a mate, or that He would bring one to us.  As in the book of Ruth, Ruth was encouraged to go out and find someone to care for her.  Several biblical stories note that searches were conducted for brides and grooms.  It never said that God the Father, the Son or the Holy Spirit brings us our perfect mate.  People went out to find a mate, or family members sought mates.

So, why are so many of us sitting at home waiting for a mate?  We are subjecting ourselves to becoming more used to being single than ever.  Go out and enjoy life, meet people, have fun in your life.

I just started a membership with an online dating community, and I'm noticing one thing.  I notice that there are a ton of eligible people who could probably find a date if they actively went out to get one.  I send out messages, winks, and respond to messages throughout my work week, and I get little response from any of it.

My theory:  You'll only get out of it what you put in. Mingle, darn it!