Telephone: Calls, length and the anxiety of it all

Remember those long phone calls, that kept you up til dawn?

And now you look at yourself, and as you are dating in your 30's, you realize that staying up til dawn has a totally different consequence than it did when you were in your teens and college age.  I remember just my drinking ability and how prolific it was in college, and now I'm barely able to have 5 ounces of wine.  Cheap date.

But when you were a teen or in college, it didn't matter if you talked all night, all you had to do was sleep through class the next day.

But here's the other part of reality:  How long are those phone calls, and how are they affecting building the relationship you want?

If you are looking at reality, you have to remember what you are responsible for in consequence to being up all night on the phone.  Being on the phone all night can warrant sleeping at work- not an option I recommend.  Also, it can affect your morning drive time, if for some reason you are not able to properly operate heavy machinery.  Be responsible with your time on the phone with your potential interest.  It could cost you more than the love of your life.

But seriously, how long are you on the phone? How much mystery is being given away during those long hours?

If you are early on in your relationship, these are fascinating and also massively endearing.  However, if you are spending that much time on the phone, how much are you not leaving for next time, or a date?  Do you want to have a full on conversation when you get to a date, or will you already be caught up so you can just stare at them?  Make sure to be able to bring something to a later date, giving away all the information up front.  Guys are notoriously making their snap decisions on the first date, because they can.  What if you wait off to let them into your world until the second or third date, and they might come back.

Also, what is the content of those phone calls?  If you are doing things you wouldn't want your grandmother to hear, that might be a bad sign.  Doing all that over the phone before you are in a committed relationship can spell disaster.  Besides, a lady wouldn't dare spout that from her lips in general, why would that be remotely ladylike to do that then either?

Be sure that those phone calls are worth your time, professionally and socially, and your reputation.