Intimacy, Every Person's Fear: Am I good enough for the other person?

This is one of the rare subjects that requires a PG-13 warning, but I will address it with care.  But I've heard this from more than just a few people. 

My mom and I had a discussion in regards to this shortly after I broke up with a really pitiful individual, so my mom won't be shocked by what I'm about to write. 

If you are breathing, breeding, intimacy, love and sex are part of your DNA.  You will at some time in your life address this core subject of sex.  The question is when it comes to approaching an intimate relationship with someone:  How much experience does the other person have and do I have enough experience to keep up with them?

Several girls I have talked to have had the attitude of having saved as much of themselves as they could for their future mate.  Some still have their "V-Card" and some have limits as to what they will do with current partners.  If you have your "V-Card," you go girl!!! It's tough, and if you made it still not having lost it, then you had more stamina than the rest. 

Then on the flip side there are those who went and painted the town red without the V-Card, throwing themselves at whatever was available, and racking up those notches in their bed.  To them, I say, congratulations, you are the ones that us girls that are timid in this department are afraid of. 

Everyone says to ask for "The Number" (the people you have physically been with) to know how many stops that person has made around the block.  I can't say this is productive, because either it freaks you out, or it creates doubt in your mind as to if the number is correct, or if the number is in town or out of town, how on earth did they get that many, etc?  It just leaves your mind racing.  I can personally say that asking has caused me more anxiety than it's worth, so I stopped asking. 

I also didn't date in common friendship circles, so that I wouldn't bump into someone that my date or someone I had previously dated had been with.  I can't say that was an overall policy, and that I think dating in your friendship circle is also risky.  I ran into more than one skank I knew personally that either dated someone in my friendship circle (and did some intimate things with them that the circle and the church knew about), or that dated previous love interests of mine.  I can honestly say that I did not rack up that title in my friendship circle.  Thank God.

Also, what if you told your friends your love interest's number? What are they going to think?  One of my college girlfriends disclosed to me that her husband-to-be had racked up 30+ women by the time they met.  I can't necessarily say I had a very high opinion of him.  Nor the friend (she and I are no longer in touch) that bragged her husband had once been bought a "lady of the night" for a birthday gift.

So, I'm not writing this to blow secrets and all that.  But to make this point:  How much do you really want to know about your partner. 

The other part of this, is simply this: Forget about the "good enough" portion of your thoughts.  If you are told "you are not good enough" then that person clearly has too much education and should really be in the "Charlie Sheen" (which also includes Robert Downing, Jr., Hugh Grant, etc) category.  If you aren't "good enough," have "enough education," "still in kindergarten," then the person is a skank and should be shown the door.  I had someone call me all of that when he dumped me.  Smart move dude. 

Anyone who brags about their intimate education should really be in a "Skank Category."  And you might need to talk about that before anything goes any further.  But you should also find someone with a sweet heart who doesn't think that it's the end all, be all, of a relationship either.  You should have a good rapport before doing anything in that fashion. 

If you truly fear that you won't be enough for them, then they aren't worth the time you have to give or your emotional attachment with that form of intimacy. 

Remember, you are who you make yourself to be, and if that isn't good enough for someone else, then they can hit the road.