Time: The Black Hole of Dating and meeting people

Time is one thing to watch in meeting people.  If you feel that the person is just leading you on, you're probably right. 

I write this one this morning in two facets, one for those whose time is being wasted, and for those who waste people's time.

My roommate and I were having a conversation last night in this regard.  The guy she has been talking to for over two weeks has not invited her out for a date yet, due to his child's schedule and his finances.  I told her that the fact that he hasn't scheduled anything yet seems to be a huge red flag, and I would begin to wonder how much further to invest in that future, if there was any.

For those who feel that their time is being wasted- pay attention to the signs of your time being wasted.  1) for scams, people trying to waste your time to gain trust and then money; 2) people that are trying to find someone merely to talk to; 3) those that waste your time to merely get intimate and personal satisfaction.

You have to not only want what you want, but you have to want and work for what you want in a very smart fashion.  You have to see if it's viable.  If you don't meet that person within about a 10 day window, I would say put the brakes on the time investment.  You may be spending too much time in the wrong place.

If that person complaints that they are broke, do you really want to be the "sugar daddy" in that relationship?  Are they broke because of how they manage things? or are they broke because they have a bad paying job and haven't looked for another?  Either way, broke is never a good place to come from in starting a relationship.

So here's to the people that are time wasters, those who lead you on: Go find something else to do.  I am seriously tired of talking to people who find out what I want and work into my trust zone, and then try and violate my time with attempting to gain by financial means, or otherwise.

If you are lonely, go visit people.  If you need money, get a freakin job.  If you are lazy, then you need to stop bothering people.

Time is a horrible thing to waste when your biological clock is ticking.  And it's sad that there are people out there that would violate your time like that.  Be street smart about your time.  If you don't think it's going in the direction you want, cut it off right there.

*Timewaster situation:  A guy I started talking to right before I met my new guy.  Salvador.  I've mentioned him before.  He wanted to talk, and then tell me that I was working too late, or whatever, typical, from what I've experienced, from the Latin Community about women and working.  He missed a weekend to meet me, then a Monday night- claiming that it was too late to be out because he had to be at work super early the next day, and then I met my new guy that Thursday.  I got a second date from my new guy that Saturday.  I went through that weekend without hearing from Salvador, and I didn't care.  By the time he tried contacting me the following week (we're into week 3 of contact), I told him I found someone else and that I wasn't going to be responding to any more text messages.  He put my job down for working too late, he didn't make time for me, and I met someone else.  His loss, my super big gain. 

Don't let anyone else drive your time.  You need to be master of the time domain in this one.

I sincerely hope that my roommate meets this guy, he sounds super super sweet, but I wonder.  He hasn't put her into his schedule yet.  At least she has a deadline she can work with, and go from there.