Details, details, details

Details, details, details..... One man's perspective.

This was the most priceless discussion, and I think it shall reign as the all supreme of dating thoughts. 

By the way, the reference for this discussion is the "Grossed Out" entry in this blog.  Gotta read that to figure out what the basis of this discussion was.

"I wish women weren't so detailed"

This was the comment that flowed from a friend's mouth on Tuesday night.  I have been trying to help with the girl search, and I have been giving (what I thought) was great tips, discussions, and help with women, his wardrobe and what looks sharp on him, and overall appearance.  I even helped him prep for a singles event with a mini manicure one night.  I feel like his big sister.

The biggest flaw in his thinking is that a woman is going to go near a man who isn't detailed oriented.  A woman who is independent, social, and cares for herself, is going to expect that out of her partner.  We are in our 30's, we've gone from being sloppy in college, to the beginnings of our careers, and now we are settled with ourselves, our paths in life, and life overall.  A woman, married or not, is paying attention to how she presents herself to others, socially, professionally, and in her familial circles.  The last thing she wants is a man who reflects the complete opposite: sloppy, non-hygienic, thoughtless, and unwilling to fix himself. 

So, the comment came up as we were having dinner, my friend, my roommate and I were out celebrating my birthday.  I am thankful I have such wonderful people in my life. 

Our discussion was about dating, men and women, etc.  He mentioned that this one girl he was interested had postponed again, but that she had been texting him non-stop for a few days.  I said that sounded suspicious, and thought that the girl had other motives at hand rather than a good relationship.  So did my roommate.

I also wanted to know about his upcoming date with another young lady, and I forgot what went on about that discussion.... but out of nowhere, the comment comes out.... "I wish women weren't so detailed."  and me and my roommate about choked......

Having been on our own a good chunk of our adult lives, sans a man, we have been the point person for how we are projected in society, and fight against some serious stereotypes doing it.  So, women not needing to be detailed oriented? Barking up the wrong tree, dude.

I leaned over to my roommate and said "Gee, if men were detail oriented, we wouldn't have The Leaning Tower of Pisa."  Which brought on another chuckle from my roommate.

I wish we could explain to him that it is necessary to pay attention to one's appearance and hygiene, but I don't think it's going to work.  But hey, it was a funny discussion.