Questions: What are you really looking for?

There are a lot of questions in dating, especially online.  The biggest one I get is "What are you really looking for?"

In this particular question, the balance of what lies ahead is at your mere fingertips, and either you can be really flippant or really spill your guts.

If you are on an online dating site to meet "The One," is this a time for brutal honesty?  This time, I took the risk.  A gentleman on a dating website asked me "What I was really looking for on that dating website?" and I finally decided that instead of just saying "It's all on the profile," I wrote this:

"The honest to God, Real Thing.  A man who respects who I am, and vice versa.  A man who can take care of a family regardless of my contributing income.  A good intellectual conversation rather than a mere opinion based discussion.  A shared balance of life and home.  I like to keep a peaceful home, with lots of laughter, learning from one another, and a culinary journey.  I love a type of man who brings intelligence and a good character to the table.  I love a type of man who considers other options rather than just his perspective.  And I love a type of man who can enjoy the company of a child as much as either his partner or a night out with the guys.  My nephew is the littlest man in my world and he is as cherished as my relationship with my parents.  I hope that gives you some perspective.  ~Melissa"

I only sent that within the last hour, but I thought for once I would be real, honest and open about what I really want.  These are the things that matter to me the most when it comes to a man in my life, and I want to make sure that whomever is part of my world understands my priorities and desires of house and home.

Honesty, let's see how that works.


Update: 10/9/15: It turned out to be one of those profiles that was a scam.  Oh, well, I got honest with myself.  Enjoy.